As a real estate advisor my best advice when trying to figure out where you will move is to pick one town at a time and take a Sunday afternoon to go visit open houses. Drive around exploring the neighborhood, see what home values are in the area, understand the local taxes (just ask me), go have lunch, dinner and/or coffee in town, drive by the parks, pools and tennis courts, and even take a peek at it's published city data. Make a day of it, and have some fun exploring.
As a real estate concierge, I am delighted to provide you with a driving itinerary for any town of interest. I may even recommend a town or two that you weren't even considering, and I believe it is good to view a range of homes at different price points. It's good to see the difference of what you can get in one area vs. another. So if I send you to a $3m home, it's not to try to sell you that home but help you understand the values inside of your desired price point. I also would not recommend seeing more than one town at a time - perhaps 2, but it's best to remain focused in one area until you have really narrowed down your focus.
One of the things I love about COMPASS is it's Tour Sheets, just ask me for one, and it would be my pleasure to send you on your way for an enjoyable afternoon with an itinerary.
Buying a home is one of the most important investments you will make in your life; yes, real estate should be viewed as an investment! It's important to land and grow routes in a neighborhood that you will love for a long time to come.